About Calma de Ser

My only choice for a degree when I applied to university was Psychology, so you can already guess what has always fascinated me.

I was born in Barcelona into a family where books surrounded me from a very early age, and an interest in understanding people, why they behave the way they do, how to deal with what they feel, is something that always stirs something in me.

I studied Psychology at Blanquerna (Ramon Llull) and, in my third year, I was able to experience what for many at that age is an adventure: going on Erasmus to Italy. And like most people I know who have done an Erasmus, it was one of the best years of my life. Laughter, friends, hugs, goodbyes… pure emotional intensity. It gave me a freedom I had not been able to experience any other way. To be who I was at that moment. To not carry labels stuck on from all the previous years.

After continuing my training, as happens to many of us, I felt lost, so I went backpacking through South America for three months. I have been lucky enough to travel the world since I was small, and I feel that this part of me sharpened my curiosity and swept away the prejudices society tries to instil in us, because suddenly what I thought of as valid starts to be questioned. Shortly afterwards, looking for my place in the world, I moved to London. First with the aim of improving my English, and I started working as a nanny, one of the powerful lessons my ego had to deal with. In Barcelona I was already working as a psychologist in a hospital, and I had got used to defining myself by what I did, so not practising psychology completely threw my ego off balance.

I decided to keep training, of course, and began a four-year master’s in integrative psychotherapy.

I had always protected myself with language, being able to explain what was happening to me emotionally with words and concepts. Although my English was very good, I could not express myself like my native colleagues or those who had lived in the UK for many years, so this barrier inevitably led me to connect with that feeling of being a child surrounded by “bigger” adults “who knew more”. This was a direct journey to connecting with my inner child. With her vulnerability and her limitations.

It helped me connect with my body, since words were no use to me, and to let myself be supported by my colleagues in that fear. Groups gave me the concept of common humanity (which I did not know had a name at the time): recognising that what happens to me happens to all of us.

After seven years, I felt my cycle in London was coming to an end. I came back, and the reverse culture shock also took its toll: coming back as a different person from the one who left, meeting people who expected me to still be my former self.

I kept training in trauma, person-centred psychotherapy and so on, but the most powerful master’s came later: motherhood. It has undoubtedly been a before and after for me. As if all the previous work I had done suddenly accelerated. As if what I used to doubt suddenly became clear.

And with all this story, I am the psychotherapist you have in front of you. With my vulnerabilities and my strengths. Holding out my hand to support you in whatever you need.